Social Media has to be the hugest mass distraction tool since television was invented and like everybody else who has seen many shot to success with social media I try to use it as a business tool, but lets be honest are we doing business or wasting time. Seems like the latter.
I was opening a few pages for some endeavors I am pursuing and the distractions are on level 1 million! So if you guys don’t know me I am sort or anti social media even tho I try and participate because everyone will say you don’t exist if you aren’t on social media. Like picking up the phone and calling/facetime or texting you is the hardest thing to do. They rather use social media to spy on yo and then pretend like they don’t know anything about you in real life as if the internet certifies something as authentic as opposed to really getting to know you offline.
I make it a huge point to not stalk exes and guys I use to talk to because sweetie I learned a long time ago of you go looking for trouble you will find it! Social media amplifies that, because there is too much room for interpretation on social media and the photos can be really deceiving. It is very dangerous to spy on people on social media and I learned this a long long long time ago when I was about 14 years old and got catfished then again though out high school when I dated this loser guy and he basically lied to me and started dating another girl. That was almost 10 years ago and looking back I should have gladly gave him to her because he’s still a loser and thank god some things don’t work out. Now when I see him on social media I am 100% disgusted. He begged to follow me on SnapChat after I blocked him time and time again. Its funny how when you really don’t want someone anymore and you literally are happy never seeing them again how they want to show you the most attention. That is so pathetic to me. If you can’t love and support my process then you don’t deserve my finished product and I think that’s the most beautiful part is sharing the benefits of hard work because lords knows we all aspire to be the best versions of ourselves one day and lord also knows we don’t want anybody enjoying our benefits who did not invest in your process. (I made another blog post about that subject) – https://wordpress.com/posts/strippernotes.wordpress.com
I used to think I had social anxiety, but I don’t. I love meeting people, talking to them and getting to know them, but social media has totally warped all that. As soon as you meet someone these days they are rushing to find your social media and soak up everything they think they need to get to know you and work it in your favor.
I went on a date with a guy last year who has been following me on social media for years apparently. I’m not sure how long, because I honestly never looked into him or he never popped out as interesting to me so I just never looked into him. I’m not sure if this guy has been following me for more than five years, but he has a five year old daughter which is fine he can’t stay single for me especially since I never knew him, but it seems like he was really attached to his baby mama and wanted to work things out with her. Anyway this man started sending me dms in my snapchat and he seemed cool, so I agreed to have lunch with him. First thing that pissed me off. We got our food to go because he claimed he was in a rush then when we got to my house he wanted to come inside for a bite to eat, fine. I was upset, but ok cool this guy just bought me my favorite Jamaican food so that’s the least I could do even though I feel like he was way out of line to insist on that. That’s the problem with social media to me. It allows people to see a lot of your life even if you only post a little there is still a lot up for interpretation. So he went home came back and I think we smoked later that night also and I think he tried to come in my house again. Now yall know I have roommates and I don’t like folks all in my business so the first time we sat in the living room and I’m usually in my room so I wasn’t really trying to chill with this guy or any guy in my house. Even the ones I have been involved with in the past are not welcome in my home. This guy also started joking about how we can take naps together and he had me totally f*cked up at that point. Idk what these guys think social media is, but its not a sex hook up connection and people on social media also don’t know I dance and I could only imagine the foolishness I’d receive if people did know. I know I’d have a lot more followers and money that’s for sure. This guy also watches my youtube videos and to be honest its so annoying when people fall on love with who they know on social media, because they are used to seeing the 100% happy side of you even if you express your hardships people will use you as a vessel to heal themselves and honestly he deserves to be rejected for trying to have sex with me after only knowing me for two days. I’m not even attracted to him in that way so he was crossing so many boundaries. I literally am only looking for friends and finding real friends on social media is like finding a needle in a haystack. Even family and friends who know me in real life are swept in the social media facade which is why I don’t like pictures anymore.
Don’t invest your daily time into social media liking pictures, screen shotting memes, spying, hoping, wishing and plain ole wasting time living in a world of fakery. My prediction is 5-20 years from now there will be millions of people in poverty who have colorful social media pages, because they were more worried about impressing and entertaining people they don’t know or used to know. I feel there will be something that will rock earth to its core and social media will truly be the least of people’s worries and reality will be so real they won’t even desire escaping to the trivial internet world because everybody’s reality will be same. If you do enjoy social media that’s fine social media does hold some amazing memories, but I feel as a whole we invest too much time I think social media is making more people poor than it is rich and I also believe people have given up their ability to think for themselves and gave social media the keys to the car.
I know this message will probably fall on deaf ears, but for those of you listening always remember that your REAL life is more important than what people think of you on social media. I feel like most people are secretly suffering behind those fake smiles. I was once one of those people of thought that if I pretended like I was fine, put on a smile for the world then that would make all of my problems go away. There is nothing wrong with smiling through pain, but to completely ignore your pain and act as if its not there is not beneficial to me. That’s like lying to yourself and its so destructive. I look back on pictures where I know I was sad and I’m smiling like life is the best possible and that honestly does make me happy to see myself smiling and not allowing anyone to break me, but sometimes we need a break from social media to get ourselves together.
I find that even if I don’t indulge in social media the way most people do I still have to deal with their social media microwave, over glamorized, sexed up and sexually deprived people. C’mon how many of you men AND women can just look at naked bodies all day on a regular basis and not want sex especially for men and women who don’t have a lot of sex and its even worse for people who do! Actually social media exposes all of our roaches in the kitchen. All of our nasty dirty little secrets are actually being exploited on social media in the worst way. A classic case of be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it. So many young women selling their souls for attention, minimal fame and a little money with no financial literacy, but social media is full of consultants, accountants and the like, but I’d rather count my own money.
My very last gripe about social media is the CHILD EXPLOITATION!!!!!!! Your children are not pawns to make your ex jealous or give you some kind of clout. Children shouldn’t have all their business posted on social media for billions of strangers to see. We don’t need to see you taking your child to school, giving your child money, taking your child shopping, feeding your child etc! THOSE ARE ALL THINGS YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING AS A PARENT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kids did not come here and ask to be the star of your social media reality show! Stop using your children for the entertainment of others especially strangers! Yes children are cute and funny, but they are children and should not be constantly splashed all over social media at everything they do! Save some memories for the family.
I AM ALSO SICK AND TIRED OF YOU PEOPLE POSTING VIDEOS AND PICTURES OF YOUR CHILDREN HALF NAKED OR DRESSED LIKE ADULTS!!!!!!
I understand they are innocent children, but the internet is filled with pedophiles and I don’t believe children should be exposed to that kind of energy. At least put some kiddie appropriate clothes on your child instead of dressing them up like a little instagram celebrity. I find that disgusting personally. Some of you are eating off of exploiting your children. Don’t use a helpless child use yourself! And give your child the respect of not being used as a pawn in your little game. I have seen some cute mommy blogs, and there may be a right way to put your child on social media, but I’m talking to those of your not doing it for the right reasons! I’m talking to those of your who are only good parents for the camera and social media! Some of you are truly disgusting and your child will remember the way you used them so stop doing that! If you are really a good parent you don’t need to constantly post proof on social media.
I encourage all of you guys to take a step back and look at the message you are sending on social media. Do any of those people really care about you? If not why are you sharing so much of your life with complete strangers who are using you to fill their idol time. And if you are one of the few or many who have a business on social media how much support do you truly get from your “followers” besides maybe a “keep it up sis” “yassss” and so on. If you do have a business that you intend on being successful 9/10 most of your supporters will be complete strangers. Most people who know you won’t even claim you until they can benefit from knowing you now that you are indeed successful and success can come in great amounts for those dedicated enough to the bottom line so be very very careful who you allow to ride you to the top with their shitty, half ass, lazy, fake, predatory support. Everybody is not your enemy, but I’ve learned its ok to be friendly, but watch people’s actions and treat them ACCORDINGLY! Most important if your spirit does not resonate with someone don’t deny it, because you are only holding yourself back for their benefit and I guarantee you they will not allow you to do the same to them.
bye bye 🙂