Lets be honest the jealous bug hits us all sometimes. Sometimes we don’t know why we are jealous, but its clear that jealousy can affect your finances big time in the strip club. Men in general don’t like insecure women. I am never involved with these men romantically, so the jealousy is directly connected to my finances.
One of the most important things you will need to eliminate jealousy is once again, my favorite word CONFIDENCE!
The times where I have been the most jealous were the times where I was very self-conscious of myself. Whether it was my body, my hair, or whatever there was some kind of insecurity. If you are a very insecure person then you will not do well in the strip club because you will have to absolutely know that you reign supreme over all of the women in the strip club whether the men are showing you love that particular day or not. The truth is everyday will not be you day, but that shouldn’t make you feel any less than any other woman.
There will always be a younger, slimmer, better dressed, or all around different woman, but she will never be you!
Next you cannot focus on what other woman are doing and who they are doing it with. If that man likes the woman he is with then why do you even care? You sound like someone who wants it the easy way by getting with someone else’s man instead of finding your own. Don’t waste precious time looking around at what other women are doing, because you are pouring gasoline on your jealousy. I see women doing this to me all the time. They may see me sitting with a man and decide to come over and be “friendly”. The bottom line is this man is sitting with me, because he likes me and he probably doesn’t give a shit about who you are, because you can never be me. These are the women who tend to have sex for money, can’t offer quality conversation or just have no real personality in general. The men who I entertain love my personality so much that they can’t help, but to beg for my company.
Another huge thing you can do to eliminate jealousy is focus on the man nothing else. What man wants to have a full-blown conversation where you just talk shit about the other women. First of all these men have enough issues and they don’t need you laying your problems on them. You are supposed to be a perfect fantasy and once they see too many cracks in the perfection they will become turned off. Men in the strip club have fragile egos and some of them influence this behavior, but this is the WRONG man and more than likely he doesn’t have any money to give you.
They key to making money is focusing on the man and why he is there. Most of these men are sad and lonely and if they happen to have a woman at home they are just pure idiots who deserved to be robbed blind in my opinion.
If any man isn’t giving you money you should ALWAYS walk away as I say time and time again. Once he see’s that you are wanted by other men he will become jealous and if he wants you that bad then he better start spending money. Once you make your money that’s the whole goal and jealousy should be the last thing on your mind.
Also eliminate jealousy by making zero friends.
I have associates, but I have NO FRIENDS in the strip club. These women see me as competition so when it all comes down to it either they are using you or want you to fail with them so its better to just have one on one time with the customer unless he has a few friends with him and even then I will dance for 3-5 men all by myself and entertain the whole crew. If another woman walks over then that’s probably because one of the men wants me all for himself.
Resting bitch face is also a good tool to use in eliminating jealousy.
Resting bitch face in my opinion is just having that beautiful Lana Del Rey soul-less stare in your eyes. I like to keep good posture and make very little facial expressions unless a song comes on that I like. Then I show my more fun side which is my last tip.
Women in the strip club hate seeing another woman full of life, but for you it will help you to not focus on the stripper drama that could be lurking behind the bushes. Men also notice a vibrant energetic woman and will want her in their company.
I can dance in a room full of people like nobody is watching because I’m simply having fun! Men will also notice this and that’s the effect that you want. Most of the women in strip clubs are high on drugs, drunk, have loser boyfriends and baby daddies so they carry all of that drama with them into the club instead of just letting loose and having fun, which is why the men are there anyway. Yeah some of the men do want women to do drugs and get drunk with them however they love it even more when you show self control.
When you do these things you will notice your jealousy slowly falling away, but be warned that you are now the target and you will be the one that the women will hate and be jealous of. Just ignore those unhappy women and focus on yourself and your goals. Most of them don’t even have goals and that’s also very apparent.
Ladies if you are reading this and you want some one on one counseling from me please don’t be shy. I’m only a bitch in the strip club other wise I am very nice. We can discuss those arrangements if you are interested in that.
This blog post is dedicated to Peter Monn who said Synchronicity in one of his videos today. I’m a real messy bitch and I live for drama and peter Monn delivers the drama the way is should be delivered. Glamorous and shady.
This is very Kanye WEst of me to say, but its true! I’m a genius. I saw all this sadness coming and some how saw all this awesomeness coming. So let me tell you about my day first because a lot of you readers atually care about that.
Long story short my mom made me pick her up early this morning to taxi her to the fax place. While we were shopping in Dollar Tree I sold a book on eBay and idgaf what you say I’m super proud of myself however now that I know I can sell shit I need to step my selling game way up! I have people who want me to help them sell some big time shit and I’m constantly blowing them off, bu my regular told me to charge them a percentae and from now on that’s what I’m going to do.
My roommates 21 year co-worker and his 17 year old friend came over to smoke weed and once I realized they were both idiots I definitely declined smoking with them. I think in the beginning he thought I was using him for weed, but honey it’s not even that serious. I’m a grown lady with grown problems and buying weed is not a problem. So right after they left I hopped in the shower and got ready for work which y’all know I did not want to do. When I got there all the girls were complaining. They were going on about how they’ve been there since 11:00 am and only made $50 lmao. Those girls are pure dummies and have no sense of business or motivation. I just met another regular tonight and he fell in love with my personality like all my regulars do. They are my #1 fans and want to see me be great as well as naked. Its like seeing Rihanna naked for them. I don’t mind, because you know they pay up when I say and they better not ever think about fucking me, because its never happening. None of my regulars want me for sex because so many women give it up so easliy.
In order to get real money you also have to be in touch with yourself and know what you will and will not do. Knowing that I won’t have sex makes it easy for me, because I will never consent to that.
The regular I met today is super young, but he feels old and lonely like many men. I took one hit of his weed oil and omg I was stoned. I only needed one hit lol I love my baby tolerance since I’ve stopped smoking. He’s 30 and he’s so fascinated witht he idea of being my regular. He is obviously one of those guys who doesn’t know what he wants, but as long as he’s spending his money on me I’ll help him figure that out.
Girls and boys I’m sleepy. Its 4:50 here and I wanted to go to yoga this morning, but that may not be happening and I also have to take a shower.
whew good night. I’m gonna hop in the shower then make some pot stickers.
I was such a zombie when I was high all the time, but being sober also put me in another zombie state since I am now forced to face my emotions and focus. I will admit I experience extreme lows with mood swings, but I also have to speak about the awesomeness of mood swings. Today is Wednesday and Day #15 was yesterday. I knew I wasn’t going to work yesterday when the day began right off the back. Everything just seemed so wrong about yesterday and I wasn’t even going to try to face the club. I was well aware that I was experiencing mood swings so I tried to remain as productive as I possibly could.
Monday night when I decided not to work was the beginning of this episode and that carried over to Tuesday and a little bit of Wednesday morning. I am a highly spiritual person and that is something that I need to discuss more on this blog because it influences my life in unexplainable ways. So Monday night I began experiencing a lot of synchronic signals. The first sign I received was early Tuesday morning I went into the kitchen it was pitch black dark and the stove clock read 3:33. I didn’t research what that meant, but I am aware that it means something. I was a little freaked out, but I didn’t lose any sleep over it and I went to sleep right away. 3 hours and 33 minutes later I woke up out of my sleep at 6:33 am and that’s when I knew I was being sent a message. All of this may sound like voodoo to you, but I love numerology and I really believe in it. So later that day I got on my twitter account which isn’t all that active and I saw that I was following 1,113 people and 1,1311 people were following me. Most of the time the universe is trying to get your attention by sending these subtle signs. It’s up to you to figure out what the message means. In my case I feel that the universe is telling me that I am on the right track and I have been making all the right moves lately.
I have recently cut off a lot of people and I also have been working more on my eBay business which is growing and doing well. The product that I am selling basically sells itself so for me that is a sign that this is something niche that I need to stick with. I also have many ideas that I have been implementing that I need to stick with also. My video making skills are improving and I am really manifesting things in my life that I want and need.
Its funny, because I have actually been eating a bit more lately yet I’ve been feeling SUPER drained. The fact that I even notice that tells me that something is trying to stop me and now is not the time to give up. I had no idea what I was going to do today, but my mom called me and needed a ride and I’m so glad that she got me up early this morning, because it really helped me jump-start my day. While I we were in a store shopping I noticed that I made another sale on eBay and that also forced me to get up.
I’m just going to end this blog post by saying a few minutes ago I feel this sadness leave me and happiness rush through my body. It was the best mood swing feeling I have ever felt and this is the amazingness of mood swings!
So it is now Thursday Morning so I must post this. It’s about Tuesday’s day lol , one last thing. This blog post is dedicated to Peter Monn who said Synchronicity in one of his videos today. I’m a real messy bitch and I live for drama and peter monn delivers the drama the way is should be delivered. Glamorous and shady.
So my regular stopped by yesterday and he always talks so greasy lol. He’s loyal tho. He even says how much he likes me all the time and stalks me mysteriously online, but you all secretly do. Hi Michael. You’re the only one that really knows all my secrets because I love you and you’re loyal too. My regular only found my instagram page and he’s so dumb, but so encouraging. You are too, but your gone lol so we’re gonna talk about him right now.
My regular actually has the same first name as you so hey I really could be talking about him. His name in my phone is Mike The Plumber. No pun intended, but he totally loves me haha. he ain’t really shit tho. Oh yeah this is about stripper health. Omg.
Yeah we always talk drugs and diseases and mental diseases are not excluded. Omg he’s super interesting frfr. He wants to fuck me so bad and always likes it when I assure him that there have been no dicks in me haha. He;s one of those people who can tell the real from the fake and it keeps me going. He actually met a dumb mistake ex of mines and he actually did dick me down for a good while LMAO. Ugh again mistakes. He’s one of the last to know I’m a stripper LMAO. I think I’m just gonna go ahead and pull a Trisha Paytas and publish these original stories baby.
I told that to a man last night and he highly entertained the idea. So I’m gonna do it. I already have over 150 blog post.
So I was talking to my regular last night and he asked me why I was depressed. I told him because I’m not a billionaire. Then he asked me how many zeros were in a billion dollars and I totally didn’t know lol. I wasn’t embarrassed he don’t give af if I’m dumb he just likes the fact that I’m constantly trying to teach myself, which is what we are all trying to do.
Anyway I already have the meat of the book all I have to do is publish, illustrate and edit and I can do all that shit by myself, but more than likely I’d want a small team. That’s a hobby. I paint and photograph. Easy peezy. Painted quotes in the books and photographs of me. Yes me. If I’m gonna come out with then book then think I want all the glory, but by the time the book comes out I should hand already have an audience with all of my other endeavours and fanboy regulars who love me.
As you guys can see my post has gone totally left. I really appreciate my loyal readers because when this book comes out its going to be so juicy to y’all Day One’s LMAO.
I would ask for help, but I think this is something that I want to do on my own. I actually honestly don’t think my stripper story is like the rest because I’m just me.
I’m gagging on an Energy Soup from R. Thomas that I overdraft my saving account for lol. Nah but fuck that I gotta house full of cash. Fuck them accounts. Cash Rules.
Can’t take the ghetto outta the girl smh haha, still getting them accounts in slick order tho. I’m thinking here and can I legally spill beans in a book? Legally? lol.
Ok I’m out. See yall soon.
Yesterday was actually pretty nice. I made a wig, edited videos, hit up a yoga spot, ordered concert tickets and rented a car for it.
I was loving yesterday until it was time to go to work. I drove all the way to the club and sat in the car for about 30 minutes and then left. When and the fuck is my period coming? Because I’m acting moody af lmao. When I did my research on quitting weed that was definitely on the list. I’m truly experiencing extreme highs and extreme lows. I can’t believe I can be so happy sometimes and instantly for no reason be so sad.
I had a really good day before it was time to go to work. These are the highs and low that come with stripping. Knowing that you could leave with no money and still having the pressure of having to first earn your house-fees. I think I need to round-up some new regulars.
I honestly don’t have much to say. My wig didn’t come out correctly so I’m fixing it. I’ve been tried all day and lastly I will be working Wednesday, thursday, friday and maybe saturday. Kap G is going to be at the Museum Bar and I want to go so I’ll see how the rest of this week goes monetarily.
yesterday and today feel like fails, but we’re going to push through this week honey!
So sunday I woke up unusually happy and anxiety free. Maybe my body is just getting used to my new way of life and coping easier with the decisions in life that I am making. I also was very happy that I made good money the night before and I don’t know a single person that isn’t happy to make money.
Sunday I didn’t go to sleep until 5 in the morning. When I got off of work I drove around looking for parks to film in, but it was too dark and then it started raining so I went to R. Thomas to get an Energy Soup smoothie. And the rain carried on all day which is enjoyed so much.
Now I actually did smoke a little weed Sunday, but it wasn’t emotional smoking it was solely for my appetite. This is the same blunt I’ve been smoking in previous post so that lets you know how little of it I smoke. I would’ve gone without smoking it, but I didn’t have to work and it was a relaxing Sunday so hey why not. I’m not sure what I’m doing, but I do know I’m not smoking morning, noon and night and every second in between like I once was. I’m an emotional non eater so I have to be in a good mood and around good people to eat. My roommate is about to turn 30 and she’s so annoying to be around. She’s trying to lose weight and thinks its cute to say she only ate once a day when she know her fat behind get hungry. If I could eat 3 times a day believe me I would. Moreover I definitely would not be bragging on having no appetite. I’m just expressing the fact that would like that to change. Not too sure why a grown 30-year-old woman would like to cultivate an eating disorder, because living this way is hell for me most of the time.That woman ruins my appetite. But most people don’t understand that this isn’t a little diet it’s just the way I am.
Later that day I went to Sevananda Natural Food Market and did some good healthy grocery store shopping. I also got some hot vegan food and absolutely smashed it! I was beyond proud of myself! I recorded some videos for my YouTube channel and published them also. I wanted to wash clothes, but my stupid roommate decided she was finally gonna clean up so I washed my clothes on Day #15. All in al it was pretty productive day.
It was a happy simple day 🙂
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Again I was depressed all day until I wasn’t. I went and got some Jamaican food and then vlogged a bit for my YouTube channel which people see to enjoy.
While I was eating I began having an anxiety attack and started to tear up so I stopped eating because when that happens I’m prone to vomiting the food back up. Now that I’m sober I’m more aware of what’s going on and I can rationalize more effectively. From what I understand it is very important to acknowledge what is going on while its going on and remember that this feeling is absolutely 100% temporary. This is mainly what helps me push through.
So after shooting a few videos and editing a few blog posts I was feeling about 30% better lol. Not much better, but hey just being honest. Around 8:30pm I took a shower and got ready for work. I wanted to go to work because I did want more money and also justhave somewhere to go. Traffic was absolutely horrible and when I got to work it was 10:00 pm and that is not an issue with me, because as you guys read in my previous post I work smart not hard. When I got to work I was feeling like I shouldn’t have come and I wanted to go back home right after I was already dressed and on the floor. This is a typical feeling when you don’t make guaranteed money and its all up to you. When I think this way I just flood my mind with thoughts of just being grateful for whatever happens and before I knew it I already had about $100 so staying was a better option since I had already made my tip out.
I actually exchanged energy with the first man I danced for through conversation which was amazing. We actually helped each other a lot. I could tell he was having a sad day, but he had no idea how my day was really going, because I’m not there to complain to customers and that doesn’t make you any money either. By the end of our conversation and dance session we were both really charged and feeling great so that was an amazing start to my night. I could tell he wanted to spend more time with me, but I didn’t have time for that so when he when to the restroom I left him and moved on to another really nice man who was so nervous to be around me. He was sweet, but something was off about him lol. I left him as well and mingled with a few other men. Then a man came in who gave me money for sex and i just took it and ran off and for some reason he still trusts me LMAO. He still wants to fuck me so when he see’s me now he still tries and gives me a little cash to just be around him and that’s the way I like it.
I am really really happy I pushed through my anxiety. Also had I gone home I would have missed out on a lot of money, because my regular ended up coming in.
Now lets discuss my regular for a moment. This man this man lol. He’s a mid 30 something hefty white plumber who comes from a well to do family and loves skinny women. He has money so he often pays for sex, and I think that’s what he thought he was going to get out of me eventually, but now he knows that will never happen. He actually loves me more for that. He is loyal, but he’s also very distracted and some what of a druggie which idgaf about we all have issues. My only thing with him is he thinks he can have who ever he wants and just drop you like a hot potato when he’s done and for that reason I don’t get attached to him. While I’ve known him he’s told me stories of his other women and they all seem pretty dumb to me, but if you’re fucking a regular then you are dumb. He gives me money, but definitely not enough to fuck me. Why would I stop my gravy train for a few thousand dollars when I can get a consistent amount on a consistent basis at least until he finds another jump off to pop. All in all we do enjoy each other’s company, but I’m not trying to hang out with him because I already know how that goes and it seems to never work. So I’m good seeing him in between his rendezvous and I’ll hustle like I usually do because while he’s a portion of my money he isn’t 100% of it.
Later that night I had a chat with my good girlfriend about being sad and owning your depression to overcome it. Some people may be uncomfortable with how candid I am about my depression, but it’s just a fact of life and I’m not going to pretend like it’s not there. At the same time just like I have depressing days I also have really amazing happy days and the balance is what keeps me doing what I love to do best and that’s create.
Sometimes you get tired of gong to the club and that’s when you have to work smart not hard.
If you are a smart stripper then you have regulars who love, respect, and are loyal to you. I have lots and it all depends on your personality and preference. I used to say I didn’t want regulars because I didn’t want to be bothered with them calling and texting me all the time, but I think I was dating then and didn’t feel like entertaining any other men. All that has changed now and my regulars are the only men in my life which is perfectly fine with me because they’re all millionaires. The men I was wasting my time with were not.
Now when I don’t feel like going from person to person selling dances and entertaining perverted strangers I tell my valued regulars who love and respect me to come see me and most of the time they ask me first. They come see me to de-stress and make they also enjoy making my life a little easier too by just giving me the money. Having regulars is amazing, but yo have to know how to play the game, because these men didn’t become successful by being stupid even though when it comes to me they can be a little wreckless with that checkbook. I also treat myself very well so it cost to be the boss honey.
A Few Keys You Need To Gain Regulars
#1 Respect Yourself –
This is your body and make sure you tell all your customers that (politely) Only the ones who can truly afford you will touch you. The broke ones might get an attitude, but they can get the fuck on with all that dumb shit.
#2 Know What You Will And WILL NOT Do –
I get offered cocaine on a daily basis, but that doesn’t mean I have to accept it. I also get offered outrageous amounts of money to perform sex acts and have sex acts performed on me. I don’t accept that either. Know yourself.
#3 HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF! –
You will have ugly old and young men with fragile egos try to break you down for a dollar! Don’t ever let those men think you need them more than they need you, because you are the prize sweetheart. Always be willing to walk the fuck off and move on to the next. When you leave walk away smiling with energy. They’ll be back.
#4 Never Fuck Ever Have Sex With A Customer.
You can kiss your money bye bye if you do this. You are selling your company not your pussy. If they want sex don’t be afraid to tell them no. Be unapologetic about your stance.
#5 Make Them Invest –
You could go on dates and hang out with them outside of work, but I’d just go to the mall to shop or something because if you hang out with them too much at their house or to dinner then they get distracted and forget that they are supposed to be paying you. It’s also your job to demand money from them for your company and if they can’t do that then don’t waste your time on them anymore. You’re not doing this for free.
As a stripper your body and personality is your business. Don’t sell your business short or have a nasty attitude. Do all these things and watch your profit grow overall. Everyday won’t be great, but don’t get desperate.
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I’m a 24-year-old African-American woman and the dating scene right now saddens me so much. The way men treat women is highly influenced on social media and anything, but love. While I find it very very hard to date right now I am not giving up on love. I have been dogged in the past and I feel like I rise above that and I am still a good person. That can’t be argued. What I hate the most about men who play you and lie to you is that when you are really truly ready to leave that’s when they want to shower you with “love” and compliment you on your beauty and wish you success and want to be “friends” *cough cough* fuck buddies. In a completely non bitter way I say to those men.
Have a tall glass of SHUT THE FUCK UP!
Those are manipulating statements to keep you on their heels. If a man ever does you wrong and you finally decide that you can’t take anymore and you are ready to walk away don’t be swindled by his “well wishes”. Those are not well wishes. Even if they really wish you well, which I’m sure they do its only to save their own souls from the guilt they will experience in the midst of your absence. Don’t get it twisted men are hurting too, but a person who has done you wrong cannot make you feel better with well wishes so politely tell him to shut the fuck up. You have to be a savage sometimes. A man like that has a small ego and more than likely he has been feeding on you positive feminine energy and never thought he’d see the day when you’d snatched it away to never be seen or heard of again. Also ladies and gentlemen don’t feel bad if your ex has moved on because you’ve been there, done that and they are an ex for a reason. You know that person and yeah they may look happy, but you know who they are and why you left so don’t be so quick to assume that they’ve magically changed for the next person.
As I date more and have more experiences I truly know what I want moving forward and while nothing is perfect I know what bullshit looks like now. Bullshit is non-communicating. If a man is not communicating with you then I’m sorry to tell you that he is probably communicating with some other woman. Which is unacceptable and that’s when you have to realize that he is not your man. He’s everybody’s man. He’s spreading himself thin and you’re allowing him to use up your time. Life is hard and don’t let him make it harder on you. Recently I’ve been thinking about life and death and when it comes to death the best way I can describe it is.
“I have not always been here and I will not always be here”
With that being said why in the world would I allow someone to waste my time or continue to waste my time once I realize what is going on?
Life truly is so short and nobody deserves to have their time wasted so its better to stop for a while and take the time to find someone who is worth all of your time until your time is up! – (wow that was a good one lol)
Refraining from sex can be one of those hard things to do, because we all take it for granted, but don’t do that. That’s your power and I didn’t say your bait. If you’re married and you stop having sex with your husband or wife that’s a whole other issue and I’m not advising anyone to do that unless you are ready for a divorce. Real talk.
Even now that I’m sort of newly single and everyday I swear up and down I know what I want until I meet that man and something just isn’t clean in the air. I truly want to take the time off to find myself first. I don’t want a rushed relationship just because we rushed the sex or I thought I had all the boxes checked off on my list. Waiting is so corny and cliché, but its a really smart thing to do and who doesn’t want to avoid all possible pitfalls. Don’t let people feed you those bullshit lies saying “you can have sex on the first date and be with that person forever”. Of course anyone can get stuck forever. Happens all the time. The next man I date will have to wait for me just because I’m tired of feeling violated and that’s how I usually feel when it all said and done.And I don’t like that feeling. I’m sure many of you can relate.
I want a mutually respectful natural love.
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The last thing I want to say about being a stripper and dating is I’m a stripper not a prostitute, don’t get it twisted. You can have a dating life as a stripper and in 100% honesty I’m not looking for a man to save me I have sugar daddies on sugar daddies, but if a man really loves me that will be something that he will couldn’t help but do.
This song is stuck in my head. Yall already know what I like lol.